You’ll find the Internet flooded with suggestions on what you need to buy for the baby before/when he arrives, which I definitely agree is required; but there are also a few things/services that I feel babies don’t really need. At least, mine didn’t.
We have enough reasons to spend on our babies and every online shopping site makes sure to highlight tempting offers which somehow burn a hole in our pockets. So here I am, helping you save some money. 😉😁 You’re welcome! 🤗
So, without wasting much time, let’s quickly delve into the list.
1. Carry Cot
I know there are a few people who swear by it, but I know of a lot who found it to be a total waste- just like I did. My little one was hyperactive ever since she was little, and she never really stayed still inside the cot, except for the first few days. Even when I travelled, I preferred carrying her in a RS over a carry cot, because when she was in it, she always turned and moved so that she could come out of it. Hence for me, it was never useful.
Babies have flat feet, which is why they don’t find shoes comfortable. When she was born, me and my parents found some really cute options online and purchased a few out of excitement. First, most of them didn’t fit her, when they started to, she found them uncomfortable and now that they fit, she removes them 🤦🏻♀️ Until kids start to walk, I’d recommend investing in socks and soft soles instead.
3. Maalish wali
Haha, now this is a hype for sure. In the eyes of the world, if you don’t have a malish wali, you’re depriving your child of her birth right 🤣 and oh yes, she won’t be able to walk or stand early if her muscles aren’t strong, which by the way, only these ‘torture females’ can do. 😐 Sorry for the harsh language, but that’s how they massage babies.
I don’t deny the importance of gentle massaging but massage time has to be bonding time with the mother. It should be a happy and engaging activity, which definitely isn’t if your maalishwali does it.
After the first 40 days, I took up the responsibility to massage her and both of us enjoyed it. I felt more connected to her and so did she. And oh, she surpassed the physical milestones way ahead than what’s considered ideal! 😀
Kids need stimulation, engagement and emotional connection. Books, natural exploration and simply interacting with them does the job. I’ve spent on books and books only. The only toy I’ve purchased so far are the stacking rings. That’s all. All the other rattles and squeaky toys that she has have been gifted by friends and relatives. So here’s my suggestion, don’t limit their exposure by letting them play with toys only. Read out to them and take them out to explore whenever possible. They need that more than these colourful thingys. Moreover, I’ve seen kids are more fascinated by regular home items than toys 😅
Though they don’t appear to be expensive, I’ve seen parents go overboard and buy several pairs even before the arrival of the baby. But here’s the thing- Children need to feel themselves, so allow them to touch their faces and yours too. Just make sure to trim their nails well so that they don’t scratch their skin and get hurt, but don’t confine their sensory experience by making them wear mittens.
Did you also find these items not-so-useful like me? Was there anything else that you thought was overrated and you didn’t use much? Leave a comment below and share with us 😊
Take care and have a happy week ahead!