There’s no denial to the fact that our mothers are always right. In fact, even if they aren’t sometimes, it’s always ideal to stick with the belief that they are 😀
For me and my brother, funnily enough, we had no choice. I don’t know if it was a creepy yet funny coincidence, mere childhood innocence or just our perspective of looking at things, but whenever my mom told us to do (or not do) something and we didn’t oblige, something strange happened. Not sometimes, but always! For instance, if we were watching TV after school and she wanted us to have lunch, and if we didn’t obey, there used to be a sudden power cut. Or when we played computer games and she wanted us to study, the computer used to stop working suddenly.
Now as I write this, I realise that she was probably very smart! Having a power cut or stopping the computer from working isn’t something a person can’t do 😂
Long story short, we grew up believing that mothers are always right and that we should obey them no matter what. And then, adolescence happened, which changed our mind altogether. Sadly, there were other people, books, modern scientific facts etc. which started to influence us and unlike how we felt in our childhood, our mom wasn’t the most perfect person on the planet anymore!
I then got married and found out about my pregnancy. She stood like a rock behind me and took care of me like no one else throughout. She was there beck and call for me and attended to my tiniest need!
In 9 months (which back then looked like a decade), I delivered my baby, and for her, a whole new project began- ‘Project Customary 40 Days’. Right from arranging a masseuse for me to making different varieties of food, she had everything covered.
Throughout the duration, I kept arguing with her, telling her that I don’t need massages and I don’t want special food, that I’m a normal human and want to be dealt with normally, but she insisted on doing these things because ‘they made her happy’.
After those 40 days were over and I came back home, I realised how right she has been!
Since I had a cesarean section, giving me light massages helped in early recovery and made me feel good from within. It also lowered my postpartum depression significantly, because who doesn’t find massages soothing to the nerves, afterall?
The food I was given- i.e. hot bajra rotla (thick chapatis made of Bajra flour) topped with a dollop of ghee along with some fresh vegetable sabji, was just the right food I was supposed to eat. Bajra being high in carbohydrates gives sufficient energy and keeps us full while ghee has enough fat which ensures that the pace of digestion is slowed down- together which keeps us satiated for a long duration. The problem with lactation is that we feel hungry very often and this was her master plan to keep overeating and junk intake off the table.
Sometimes I think, no matter how alluring western lifestyle may be, but our basics are always right! And so are our moms!
This post is a part of a blog train organised by me where I brought 20 Indian moms together to write on how their own mothers were right!
Also, make sure to check this interesting article written on the same topic by a fellow mom blogger, Nayantara (click here to reach her page)
<< t;<<< Thank you for stopping by and reading this article! Take care and happy mothering! Love, Elina
As much there is a burning desire to lose weight and look fit again, the truth is- getting back in shape post pregnancy is a real challenge! Especially if you’re put up in a nuclear family and if you’re single handedly managing it all, finding the time to go to the gym is close to impossible!
If you’re facing the same challenge, I’ve a solution for you!
Sharing with you all 5 easy indoor exercises that won’t take much time and will help you tone up your body and lose some fat too. Try performing these regularly for at least a month to see a visible difference in yourself. Good luck!
Here we go!
1. Push Ups
Method: Lie on your tummy and lift it from the ground while firmly supporting your body on your palms and toes.
Reps recommended: 10-15
2. Chair Dips
Method: Sit on a chair holding the edges with both your hands. Slowly slide down with your arms behind you still holding the chair. Keep yourself in the position as long you can abd get back up.
Reps recommended: 20
3. Mountain Climbers
Method: Get in a plank position and rest your arms on the floor. Lift your left leg and try to bring your knee to your right chest. Perform the same vice versa.
Reps recommended: 10-15
4. Step Ups
Image source: Popsugar Fitness
Method: You’ll need a stool/some wooden blocks/chunky books or basically anything that will stay still and provide you with the required height. All you have to do is- step up with one foot and bring the second one beside it. Stay for a few seconds and step down in the same manner.
Reps recommended: 30
5. Lateral Hops
Method: It’s a simple side to side hop wherein basically you have to make small lateral jumps. Easy and effective.
Reps recommended: 30
If you’re a bavywearer, there some awesome exercises that will help you OTB significantly more. Stay tuned because ok sharing those too!
Thanks for stopping by! Try religiously performing these and let me know if you could see a difference in yourself 🙂
Have a great day ahead.
Generally after 3-4 months of delivery, most moms face postpartum hair loss. In fact, I’ve lost so much hair in this one month, that I feared I’ll go bald! (FYI: that never happens, no matter how crazy your Hairfall is!)
It’s is a major concern for most moms, especially if their hair is scanty and thin like mine. Hence, I did a little research to jot down why this happens and how can you control it!
- Generally our hair goes through two phases- Growth phase and resting phase
- Normally, 85-90% of our hair is in growth phase and 10-15% is in resting phase, which is why we lose around 100 strands a day and that’s perfectly normal.
- During pregnancy, our estrogen levels rise, thus freezing the resting phase. This is the reason why women generally during pregnancy have long, thick and lustrous hair.
- After delivery, the estrogen levels collapse and a lot of hair go in resting phase, this is why women start shedding way more hair than they normally do.
There’s not much you can do to reverse it, but yes, there are a few things that’ll make your existing hair look healthier!
- Oil your hair as much possible with a mix of almond oil, castor oil and coconut oil.
- Make hair masks of ingredients that are known for maintenance of healthy hair- like eggs, banana, curd, henna etc.
- Include proteins in your diet- that will go a long way in giving your hair optimal nutrition.
- Protect them from direct sunlight.
- Decrease your hair length. It’ll give them an illusion of bouncy healthy hair and will also be easier for you to maintain!
The good news is that this is a temporary condition and your hair growth will be normal by the time it’s your child’s first birthday, so rejoice! U 😀
When asked if I’m fasting while still nursing my 4 month old, who is still exclusively on my milk, my reply often gets a jaw dropped expression. Yes, I do, and with absolutely no problem, Alhamdulillah 🙂
Many are worried about the supply being reduced, or milk composition being affected and so I thought to jot down a few points which I gathered after tons of research in this area. I’m a qualified nutritionist, and I don’t derive any conclusion without research from authentic sources, so you can trust me with my words 🙂
Firsty, according to the law of Shariah, pregnant and lactating women are EXEMPTED from fasting and can choose to do so if they’re able to keep their health good and if they’re comfortable with it. So there’s no hard and fast rule here, but I chose to fast because:
1. I’m never motivated to compensate for the missed fasts because there’s no company
2. I love fasting. Yes. Though it might sound very taxing or difficult, I feel fasting rejuvenates me in some way. I’m way more active and focused while I fast 🙂
For all those confused or worried, I’ve jotted down all the common questions and answered them individually. If you have any more queries, feel free to ask in the comment section and I’d be more than happy to help.
Q. Will fasting affect the quality and quantity of the milk?
This might surprise you, but no, milk production is not affected, unless the fast exceeds 24hrs, which never happens. I’ve even noticed forceful let down on a couple of occasions while fasting, so I’m sure about this part! Talking about the quality or nutrients, only a few micro nutrients like zinc, phosphorus and magnesium are slightly on the lower side, but the macronutrients remain unchanged.
Q. Will I not be dehydrated?
There’s a possibility of dehydration if your water intake is not maintained well. But if you try to compensate for the liquids during the non-fasting period i.e. From Iftaar to the following suhoor, it can be managed well and will not result in dehydration. However, if you notice any of the signals (mentioned below), it’s best to break your fast.
Q. How will I know I should break or skip my fast?
If you notice any of these symptoms or signals, I would strongly suggest you to not consider fasting since your body may not be prepared for it:
1. Weakness or dizziness
2. Yellow or dark coloured urine
4. Splitting headache
Or if you notice any signs in the baby such as incessant crying due to hunger, constipation or green coloured poop, less playful or active than usual etc.
Note that the chances of this happening are very bleak since milk is produced from blood and storage we already have and it’s the sucking reflex that increases the production, but still, if you observe any of the above, I would strongly advice you to take a break for a day or two and see if fasting is the reason for the occurrence and then judge accordingly.
And guess what? You may also lose upto 1kg per week while breastfeeding and fasting without affecting the nutrient composition of the milk if you make sure to eat healthy. However, if notice weight loss more than 1kg/week, it would be best to discontinue fasting and you should probably see your doctor.
I have, so far, managed my fasts pretty well and never felt low or ill, hence I can say this with assurance that if you eat well and stay hydrated, you can fast and stay healthy too 🙂