What Happened When I Kept My Phone Away While Nursing My Baby?

Long before I got pregnant, I made a list of things that I’d do when I breast-feed my baby— from talking to her and caressing her hair to reciting holy books and lullabies. And believe me, I did it all, for one complete month. And then, before I realised, I was aimlessly scrolling through my phone every time I nursed her. It slowly became a routine.

Every time she was hungry, I picked her up and began to nurse even without noticing her cues, looking at her face or seeing those pretty eyes.

As she grew, she learnt to play with my top, tried to pull my nose and put her fingers inside my mouth to touch my teeth, while I kept my self busy checking my notifications on Facebook and Instagram, watching random YouTube videos or simply checking deals on Shopping sites.

Honestly, deep down inside me, I hated myself and felt the guilt, but just like many other things we don’t like but still continue to do, this too became the same.

Soon I started to write parenting articles and the best time I could do that was when I nursed her. Albiet, my focus had changed and I was making more constructive use of this time, nonetheless, my actions remained the same.

Just like that, 2018 commenced. I was going through the resolutions made by people on the New Year’s Eve, and saw many people mention ‘Phone Detox’ as one of their goals. It was then it struck me, that I don’t need a complete detox, but there’s one thing that I really need to work on and that was- ‘Quality Nursing Time.’

I didn’t wait to jot it down in a planner or streamline my daily routine to work on it, but I chose to start immediately. That’s the thing about goals- you don’t always need to plan and wait for the right time, you just need to buckle up and start working on them as soon as possible.

After I made up my mind and it was time to nurse her, I held her in my arms and gave her a huge welcoming smile as I unbuttoned. She looked back at me with a twinkle in her eyes- the kind I’d never seen before. I realised how beautiful this little girl of mine was- so innocent and angelic. Throughout the nursing session I kept caressing her hair and read out lullabies and chants, just like I had planned to. I looked at her hands and noticed the cute dimples that she had below her fingers; I saw her face and noticed how it was full of enthusiasm; I saw her feet which constantly wiggled throughout. She continued to look at me and I noticed how the magic of breastmilk slowly worked and how beautifully she drifted off to sleep. Yes, that was my girl- the little squish that came out of me a couple of months ago, who was so delicate and tiny that she couldn’t even turn her head in the direction she wanted and here she is- all grown up and ready to walk independently. How quickly all these months flew by!

We often say kids grow up in the blink of an eye, but the truth is that we are so occupied in ourselves that we forget to notice them grow. Things like notifications, calls, shopping etc. can wait, we can do those when our little ones are asleep, but our children will never be this little again. They’ll never run to us to get a hug, they’ll never find joy in coming to us to get milk, they’ll never play peekaboo with our tshirts when they eat and they’ll probably never love us with the same pure feelings as they do today.

Someday in the future, we would scroll through their photos and miss these days! Why not cuddle and snuggle them as much we can before these lovely moments are gone?

Nursing our little ones is not just another mom-duty. It’s an unparalleled bond that we share which is like nothing else in the world. It’s like giving a part of yourself to your baby- the kind of nourishment and nurturing she will receive from no one ever! It’s therapeutic, not just for them but for us mothers too. Try to live in the moment- to feel the flow of liquid gold from your body to your baby’s and experience the magnificence. Try to make nursing sessions bonding times with your baby. Researchers have found that the strength of mothers emotional bond with the baby may trump all the other cautionary measures we take- like vaccinations, monthly check ups with the paediatrician etc., to help the baby thrive. A close attachment can prevent diseases, boost immunity and even enhance their IQ! Isn’t that amazing?

I’m still working on this and I urge you to try too! 🙂 I’m sure you’ll thank me for this.

Love,

Elina

(Just another mother who errs and learns)

P.S. Please excuse all the typos and errors. Wrote this while my little bundle of joy was sleeping. You know the time crunch we mothers have 🙈

Interviewing a First Time Baby-Wearer + Review of Soul’s Basic Cotton Full Buckle

Today, I have something different for you. A friend of mine recently purchased a basic cotton full buckle after getting inspired from many on Instagram. I was so happy that I decided to interview her and share her experience with you all.

Note: She bought Full Buckle (standard) Carrier in the colour Lacre from Soul Slings, India.

1. What was your reaction when you first opened the box?

When I first saw the colour of this carrier (Lacre), it made me fall in love with it instantly. It’s sophisticated maroon and has a dash of shine on it which makes it look so rich. It absolutely gives the carrier a royal classy touch and can be carried to the parties/weddings or events too!

I was truly impressed with it’s material too. As seen and heard, Soul is surely a hit when it comes to quality. I had not expected this high quality carrier before I experienced soul carriers. And the same goes with this cotton carrier.

Also, it came with a very nice instruction brochure that helps you wear your baby step wise with the do’s and dont’s mentioned, serves as a help to the ones trying baby wearing for the first time 🙂

2. How did you find it when you first tried Baby-wearing?

More than anything else, what I think has to be an important trait in a carrier is how comfortable and wearable it is. Very crucial to each one of us and this has to go with both- the baby and the mother. Only then baby wearing gets easier and is a joy! I must say, whenever I try this carrier, my baby goes off to sleep 🙂 It is equally comfortable for me too. It distributes the baby’s weight throughout my upper body, hence I’m able to use it for a longer time period too.

3. What’s your take on the quality of the fabric/s used?

As the material of the carrier is 100% woven cotton, it is surely comfortable to the baby. Especially in a place where I stay (Mumbai has a hot humid weather almost most part of the year!!). Hence the material that is used is apt and helps the baby to stay relaxed in the carrier, and feel comfy throughout the baby wearing journey.

4. What feature are you excited about?

Lacre Full Buckle supports both “front carry” and “back carry” features. Which means you and your child have an option of using the carrier either ways. I can’t wait to try back carry when she’s a little older 🙂

5. Why did you choose Soul?

For me, my child’s safety is pivotal. When I read about how safe Soul carriers are, it instantly took my heart. This feature shows how much they care for babies! I read that their waist buckles has to go through the safety loop (elastic), that ensures your baby’s safety on a higher level, which is pretty awesome.

6. What’s one advise you’d like to give for first time babywearers?

I feel one should not carry the baby for hours together in the first initial weeks. Your body needs to get habituated too 🙂

What’s your final verdict?

If you are new to baby wearing and would love to start with a basic standard carrier, comfortable and cozy enough to help both you and your baby experience baby wearing, then surely give this a try!

Additional information of this carrier (Taken from Soul’s website)

*Material : 100% woven cotton

*Weight Recommendation : 7 to 18 kgs.

*Adjustments:2-way shoulder adjustment + PFA + sliding back/chest straps

*Price : 3,750 RS.

*Colour : Maroon (range of colours available too).

P.S. Images are taken from Soul’s Official Website

Interviewer: Elina Wadia

Interviewee: Mumtaz Surani (www.instagram.com/tinysoul.za)

BabyWearing Basics: Carrier Fabrics

Narrowed down on category of the carrier-you want to purchase i.e. Buckle-less or Buckled? Check

Chose the type of carrier you want to go ahead with? Check 

But just when you’re about to place your order, you’ll notice that there are a tons of options in each category, each priced differently!

Is it just the colour or the print/weave which is different or are they functionally disparate too?

If you’re stuck, I’ve got the answers to all the queries that you may have! 🙂

Firstly, in all the categories, the basic structure and the function of all the carriers remain the same, regardless of the price! They’re priced differently due to the fabrics used.

If you’re unable to decide the kind of fabric you should go ahead with, then here’s what you can do. Decide your carrier on basis of:

  • Climate of Your City

If you’re put up in a hot and humid city, choose a carrier which is thinner and moisture absorbent. If I had to explain in short- choose linen, handwoven cotton, Ikat cotton or just woven cotton (Placed in the decreasing order of thinness- based on what I observed). But if you’re put up in a colder region, I’d suggest choosing jacquard which is thicker.

Now, this is only for those who want an elaborate explanation-

If you’re inquisitive to know the extent of  thinness or thickness of the one you’ve chosen, search for the same fabric in wraps category (applicable on handwoven, linen and jacquards only) and look for the term- GSM which means Grams per Square Meter. It’s basically a parameter to gauge the thickness of fabrics, especially wraps.

You can use this as a reference to understand what I’m talking about: 

Image courtesy: www.sheenslings.com

Less than 180 gsm = really thin

180 – 220 gsm = thin

220 – 260 gsm = medium

260 – 300 gsm = thick

greater than 300 gsm = really thick

This will help you understand how thick thr fabric of your carrier is and will prevent you from buying something that you might regret later.

  • Budget

BabyWearing can be an investment for many. If you check the website of these carriers, you’ll notice that there’s a myriad of options available at various prices.

Now the question is- What are the different types of fabrics used and why is there a massive price difference between them?

The prices of these carriers are set based on the quality of fabrics used and the extent of effort that goes in manufacturing these fabrics. 

For instance, linen and handwoven cotton are expensive because they’re not easy to produce. However, machine woven cotton is easy to manufacture, hence it’s relatively inexpensive.

Like I mentioned earlier, regardless of the cost, their functionality remains the same.

Here’s an elaborate explanation of the types of fabrics you’ll usually find:

1. Linen


Linen is one of the most toughest to produce and hence it’s one of the most expensive fabrics available in the fabric world.. This is the reason why linen carriers are generally priced way higher than other carriers. Moreover, it is known to have anti bacterial properties and can absorb moisture, which makes them one of the best options for Indian summers, or generally speaking, Indian weather.

The only downside is that it’s only produced in solid colours. So, if you’re looking for a prints or designs, this may not be your pick.

2. Handwoven Cotton

Handwoven cottons, like linens, are difficult to produce. They’re weaved manually by artisans and take a lot of time and effort to manufacture, hence are slightly expensive. However, they’re available in stunning weaves and give a very classy look when used. Since they’re weaved by hand, they’re great flexibility and mouldability. If you check the list of full buckles made with handwoven cotton, you’ll notice that there are two options- one in the mid-range and one, high-range. This difference in the price is because of the amount of fabric used in the carrier- which is in BabyWearing terminology called- Full conversion and semi conversion.


Understanding Full Conversion and Semi Convesion Carriers
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Now, the thing with handwovens made from wraps, and hence are categorised in two types. The Full conversion one has only handwoven cotton used- in the body, waist strap, shoulder straps etc. But, semi conversion carriers have handwoven used only in the visible part of the body while the waist strap, shoulder strap and the main body which is towards the inner side is made of machine woven cotton. 


Semi conversion carrier are a great option for those who want the rich look of the handwoven weaves but don’t want to burn a hole in their pocket.

3. Jacquard 

Jacquard fabric requires a different loom which helps in manufacturing complex patterns and weaves. This is why, you’ll see a variety of designs and colour combinations in the jacquard category. It’s usually the thickest of all fabrics and this property helps in making carriers more firm and strong. 

4. Ikat cotton
Ikat is basically a dyeing technique where the yarns are tied or bundled in the design  intended and then dyed so that a beautiful pattern is obtained. This process is also time consuming as the fabric may have to go through several rounds of dyeing to reach the desired level of colour fastens and pattern. Which is why, Ikat cotton is sightly more expensive than the basic cotton variant.


5. Cotton/ Machine woven cotton or Printed Cotton 

Woven cotton or machine woven cotton is the easiest to produce and hence is the most inexpensive variant. It’s not very thick nor very thin, making it a great option of Indian weather. It is firm yet mouldable and is comfortable to use too. In short, it’s a great budget friendly variant for begginers.

I hope this article helps you make the right choice! Hope you enjoyed this series 

Thank you for all your love!

Happy BabyWearing to you!

Love, 

Elina 

BabyWearing for Beginners: Which Carrier is Best For You? (Part 1- Buckle-less)

If you’re new to BabyWearing and you happen to check the types of carriers, I’m sure all of it may appear to be very confusticating, especially if you have never seen or  tried any before.

 I had the exact same feeling when I first came across the concept. I was so unsure of the whole thing and even hesitated to invest in one. Seriously.

If you’re apprehensive too, then this article is for you! 🙂

To make it easier to understand and less confusing, I’ve divided this topic into 2 parts: Buckle-less and Buckled Carriers. 

Let’s just discuss the buckle-less variants in this article to simplify it. I share more about the buckled ones soon.

Types of buckle-less carriers:

1. Ring Sling 

Image courtesy: Soul’s Official Website

A Ring Sling is one of the most inexpensive and widely used options of all carriers. It’s basically a long cloth with rings on one end. The other end of the fabric goes inside these rings, making a pouch for the baby to sit in.

Age range: Newborns to preschoolers

Difficulty level: Medium to hard for beginners. Once you get a hang of it, it’s a lot easier.

Price: Starts from ₹1,500/-

Pros: 

1. If you’re looking for a budget friendly and durable option, this one is for you. 

2. It can be wrapped creatively by those who love playing around with various finishes.

3. Takes less space in diaper bags.

Cons:

1. Slightly more time consuming to use.

2. If you and your partner both plan to carry, take his consent first. Men generally don’t like using Ring slings.

3. Not the most comfortable option to breastfeed. Atleast I didn’t find it very user-friendly. Although it can be used as a cape to cover yourself while nursing.

2. Wraps

Image courtesy: Soul’s Official Website

Wraps are one the oldest types of carriers. They say there are two types of babywear-ers. 1. Wrap-lovers and 2. Others 😝

Yeah, the ones who love wraps don’t opt for anything else. Because a wrap gives the most cushion-y feeling, snug fit and mouldabity like none other. Although I’ve never tried, but I honestly can’t wait to try one. Probably very soon, once I master all the other types. 

Age range: Newborns to preschoolers

Difficulty level:  Medium to hard for beginners

Price: Starts from ₹2,800/-

Pros: 

1. One of the biggest pro of wraps is the fact that they can be used with ample of creativity. You can make bows, knots and finishes that look absolutely stunning. 

2. They grow with the baby. Meaning, theycan be used right from Day 1 until the baby decides to finally stop being worn!

Cons:

1. Beginners may find it a little difficult to wrap, but once they nail it, there’s no looking back. 

2. It takes relatively more time to wear in a wrap. May not the best option while dining out or going to a market for shopping, especially in India, because if the baby insists on coming out of it, wearing it again might be a task.

3. Meh Dai

Image courtesy: Soul’s Official Website

A Meh Dai is a hybrid of a wrap and a Full Buckle. It has a proper body, like that of a full buckle and straps to knot for firmness and sturdiness, like a wrap.  

Age range: Babies weighing 7kgs and above

Difficulty Level: Easy to Medium

Price: Starts from ₹3,500/-

Pros:

1. Its a perfect carrier for people like me and who like the versatility and mouldability of wraps but are to hesitant to try them. 

2. Far more adjustable than Full buckles

3. Takes lesser space in diaper bags while giving almost the same look as that of a full buckle.

Cons:

1. Slightly more time consuming as compared to Full buckles

2. If worn incorrectly or loosely, might cause back ache. Although that’s applicable for all carriers. But I experienced this, hence shared.

3. Might require tightening if the knots get loose. 
I hope you found this helpful. Please like, comment, subscribe and leave some love!

Thanks for reading.

Elina